You should maintain an open dialogue with your partner about your feelings, thoughts, and concerns as they come up. Like it or not, your relationship isn't just about you and your partner in this situation. I'm still cool with her but I miss the kids and pets way more then her as time passes. I led by example in how I treated her and her kids. She told me quick it was not my place to raise her children. I adopted the role of positive adult role model. My last serious ex-gf with kids let me into their lives once we became exclusive and she was comfortable. Here are five other tips from people who've been there before. Understanding and respecting each other's needs in a relationship like this is one of the first steps to navigating a potentially-complicated situation. In the same way, I'd expect my partner to have disclaimers of their own about how they lead their romantic lives and their family lives. I'm not ready for the responsibilities that come with the latter and I think it's better for everyone involved that I disclose that going in. My role, as of right now, would be that of a romantic partner, not a step-mom. For me, it would come down to how we define our relationship. Of course, they'd have to be OK with my views on parenthood, too, but I think it could work. Truthfully, if I ever found myself genuinely interested in someone who happened to be a parent, I would be willing to give it a shot. And even if I am, I don't have any real interest in being one, which is fine by me. I just don't know if I'm cut out to be a mom. It's not like I'm Meredith in The Parent Trap who was eager to ship her fiancé's twin girls off to boarding school. As a woman who doesn't want kids of her own, I've always been a little apprehensive about dating someone who has a child.
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